*The opinions expressed by those couples interviewed are solely for this article and not in promotion of Fiera*
Relationships are hard work. I’m sure everyone who is in one at this moment and reading this blog post is giving a collective “no duh” look at their computer screens. It’s this particular fact that got me to thinking about my own relationships. What made them successful? What didn’t? Why did they end? Why were they good when they were good? I’m in no way a relationship expert, I have more questions than I have answers. But I realize that where I fail, there are others who succeed. So instead of wracking my brain and coming up with the answers to the burning questions in my head, I reached out to 6 couples whom I am also happy to call close friends & family (no really one couple is actually my brother and sister-in-law).
These couples are all super fun to be around, have been together collectively over 40 years and have relationships that I admire. I admire them because I’ve seen them work hard at it. Being close friends I’ve been able to observe their ups and downs and the fact that they haven’t given up is truly inspiring to me. If I can let you in on a little tidbit about yours truly, I’ve just not found someone I am inclined to go the distance with. For whatever reason, it’s been fight and flight for me. So to see the love that these folks so openly share even through the tough times is something I aspire to.
In that same vein I thought it would be great to get their opinions with regards to how they keep the spark alive in their relationship. Some answers were detailed and some straight to the point ( when you know you know) but all of them actually surprised and inspired me. Let me know what they do for you.
Jaimie & Bryan: “Love the one who makes you smile.”
Daouda & Nakia: “We keep the spark alive by our ability to adapt over the years and allow each other to be the best version of ourselves. The difficulty that it presents makes our marriage spicy.”
Todd & Julie: “We GENUINELY care about each other. Technology also helps. Todd travels for work a lot so we use FaceTime to talk every day that he’s gone.”
Anthony & Kathy: “We keep the spark alive by not forgetting what each of us did to attract the other in the beginning. We try new things. If a whole week goes by and we’re not intimate in some way shape or form then the spark will begin to die”.
Jimmy & Danielle: “We keep the spark alive by allowing each other to be individuals. Live our own lives. Then when we get together we enjoy each others company. We just give each other time to miss one another.”
Stephen & Takiyah: “Every summer we take a little getaway vacation for a few days just the two of us!”
Valentines Day is coming up and aside from this wonderful advice from these 6 amazing couples, I urge you to keep the spark alive with Fiera! PLUS it’s time to normalize the conversation of intimacy in relationships. On top of all of this I’ve got a $50.00 coupon so that you can try this amazing tool out for yourself!
So tell me, how do you keep the spark alive in your relationship? I’d love to know in the comments below!
We’re still relatively newlyweds, but this is the second marriage for both of us, so we’ve learned a thing or two along the way. We always put each other and our relationship first, which I think brings us closer together and makes our bond stronger. Some people say the kids should come first and we disagree… it’s us first, then the rest.
I have been married for almost 18 years. My advice. Put God first. Once you do that everything else that you face in your relationship is easy. We have been God centered for 18 years. After that be sure never to put your kids before each other. It is important that you nurture your relationship and take time for each other. Go on date nights, take kid free vacations (once they are old enough) and never go to bed angry.
This is a great Valentines day inspired post! Love reading all of the different couples experiences and what works for them. Love should be celebrated.
My husband and I just celebrated our 4th wedding anniversary and we have been together for 7 years in April. We discuss things, but we never argue loudly. We hate raising our voices and if one of us is having a bad day we support each other and just let each other have bad days. I don’t know I just find loving him super easy. I guess that is how you know that they are the one.
We’re a couple since 2000 and got married in 2003. It was hard at first specially.. but as we go along, we realized both that our relationship is give and take and that in order to survive we always need to be honest to each other.
Aww this is is such a great post that can give anyone the warm fuzzies 😀 I agree with all the points, and for sure, if you live with your partner 24/7 it helps to miss each other once in a while; so, going on trips separately helps a lot!
I was reading the article and trying to figure out what Fiera was…. 🙂
Anyway, I love all the cute couple pictures and advice. I’ll chime in to say that dates are essential when you have kids. Go on an overnight trip if possible once or twice a year, too.
Not forgetting what attracted you in the first place is definitely great advice! Busy lives can makes the spark be dimmed but it can always be brightened.