*The opinions expressed by those couples interviewed are solely for this article and not in promotion of Fiera*
Relationships are hard work. I’m sure everyone who is in one at this moment and reading this blog post is giving a collective “no duh” look at their computer screens. It’s this particular fact that got me to thinking about my own relationships. What made them successful? What didn’t? Why did they end? Why were they good when they were good? I’m in no way a relationship expert, I have more questions than I have answers. But I realize that where I fail, there are others who succeed. So instead of wracking my brain and coming up with the answers to the burning questions in my head, I reached out to 6 couples whom I am also happy to call close friends & family (no really one couple is actually my brother and sister-in-law).
These couples are all super fun to be around, have been together collectively over 40 years and have relationships that I admire. I admire them because I’ve seen them work hard at it. Being close friends I’ve been able to observe their ups and downs and the fact that they haven’t given up is truly inspiring to me. If I can let you in on a little tidbit about yours truly, I’ve just not found someone I am inclined to go the distance with. For whatever reason, it’s been fight and flight for me. So to see the love that these folks so openly share even through the tough times is something I aspire to.
In that same vein I thought it would be great to get their opinions with regards to how they keep the spark alive in their relationship. Some answers were detailed and some straight to the point ( when you know you know) but all of them actually surprised and inspired me. Let me know what they do for you.
Jaimie & Bryan: “Love the one who makes you smile.”
Daouda & Nakia: “We keep the spark alive by our ability to adapt over the years and allow each other to be the best version of ourselves. The difficulty that it presents makes our marriage spicy.”
Todd & Julie: “We GENUINELY care about each other. Technology also helps. Todd travels for work a lot so we use FaceTime to talk every day that he’s gone.”
Anthony & Kathy: “We keep the spark alive by not forgetting what each of us did to attract the other in the beginning. We try new things. If a whole week goes by and we’re not intimate in some way shape or form then the spark will begin to die”.
Jimmy & Danielle: “We keep the spark alive by allowing each other to be individuals. Live our own lives. Then when we get together we enjoy each others company. We just give each other time to miss one another.”
Stephen & Takiyah: “Every summer we take a little getaway vacation for a few days just the two of us!”
Valentines Day is coming up and aside from this wonderful advice from these 6 amazing couples, I urge you to keep the spark alive with Fiera! PLUS it’s time to normalize the conversation of intimacy in relationships. On top of all of this I’ve got a $50.00 coupon so that you can try this amazing tool out for yourself!
So tell me, how do you keep the spark alive in your relationship? I’d love to know in the comments below!