Today I allowed myself to do something that I swore I would NEVER do, I allowed myself to cyber debate with someone over social media, and to make matters worse it was with someone I don’t even know! I made a promise to myself awhile ago that I wouldn’t debate with people over the internet for a few reasons. 1) The majority of the time no one ever really “wins” these debates or walks away having truly understood how the other person feels 2) It requires too much negative energy-I never feel particularly “good” afterward, in fact it makes me anxious and aggy and I end up being mad at myself for wasting my time on something so unproductive. Lastly, and this for me is a huge one because I pride myself on being self aware. 3)You’ve now subjected yourself to the judgement of others, and while I am certainly of the opinion that “it doesn’t matter what people think of you ” I am also aware that the hills (or in this case the internet) have eyes and you never know who is lurking behind a computer screen. Let’s just say it’s your moms co-worker who you just so happen to bump into in the line at Starbucks. She keeps staring at you saying she swears she knows you from somewhere ( you however can’t place her face if your life depended on it) when it suddenly dawns on her! You’re her co-workers daughter! And upon further inspection, you’re also that crazy lady who was arguing with her friend on Facebook about whether or not Beyonce and Jay Z are getting divorced and who’s to blame in the whole debacle. She’s thinking to herself, wow her mom has the nerve to brag about how amazing and accomplished she is, I wonder if she knows she’s quite accomplished at writing long drawn out rants on Facebook?
This scenario is not so far fetched, and when you think about it, it’s always that one time you get caught acting out of character that sticks out in peoples minds. Folks never seem to remember the photographs of you giving food and clothing to those orphans in Haiti.
All of this negativity had me wanting to get back to my “happy place” and what makes me especially happy is connecting with people in a positive way. Rather than stay in that low energy space, feeling all irritated and ridiculous. I’d rather learn from the experience. So where does one go when they wish to learn something these days? My Pinterest page DUH (shameless self promotion). So I started there first and began looking up quotes that I can refer to the next time I feel the pull of a cyber fool or any fool for that matter (myself included). Hopefully by sharing these quotes you guys can refer to them when you feel the pull to be anything but the cool, calm, collected person you are.
Do any of these quotes resonate with you? Do you have a mantra or any advice you tell yourself to talk you down in the heat of the moment? Let me know what you think! As always regardless of how crappy people can be, remember to just keep the party goin!